Inside Her Mind

A relationship exists in many phases, and it’s not always clear which one we’re in. After all, it’s not like we get a badge every time we advance to the next stage like we’re Boy Scouts. We start out with the mystery, allure, and chase of a new partner. This is exciting, thrilling, and it’s the stuff that movies are made about. Palms sweating, butterflies in the stomach… yup, that’s the good stuff. Every text from them is a moment of triumph, and your mind is a hamster on his wheel every night that you don’t see them. Let’s call this the Chase phase. Next, after you discover that your affections are returned and that there’s the potential for something real between you and the other person, you quickly dip into the “I can’t get enough of you” mindset. You fight the urge to spend every waking second together, and start showing up to events and activities together enough so that people always ask where your partner is when you’re alone.